1. A partner who seems uncommitted:
Knowing your partner is in it for the long haul provides a sense of safety and stability. Your relationship suffers when you worry they have one foot out the door.
2. Lack of appreciation for one’s partner:
In healthy relationships, the partners feel lucky to be with each other. When appreciation is low, the relationship suffers.
3. Low sexual satisfaction:
When your sex life suffers, your relationship quality is likely to suffer. Apparently, the quality of sex may be more important than the quantity, as the frequency of sex was less consistently linked to relationship quality.
4. A partner who seems dissatisfied: It’s a great feeling to know that your partner is happy in the relationship. When they seem unhappy, it can introduce all kinds of questions and uncertainty about the health and future of your connection.
5. High conflict: I don’t know anyone who enjoys getting in fights with their partner, and a lot of conflict can quickly sap the joy from a relationship.
6. An unresponsive partner: A responsive partner seems to get you and respects your thoughts and feelings even when they don’t agree with you. It feels bad when your partner doesn't seem to understand or respect you.
The remaining predictors of relationship quality were what each partner brought to the relationship.
7. Dissatisfaction with life:
If you’re unhappy in general, you’ll tend to see your romantic relationship in a more negative light.
8. Derpression: On a related note, people who are depressed tend to report a lower-quality relationship. Part of this association could be that bad relationships contribute to depression.
9. Negative affect: Other negative emotions, like a lot of anger or irritability, are linked to worse relationship quality. As with depression, a bad relationship, in turn, can contribute to negative emotions.
10. Attachment style:
Both anxious and avoidant attachment styles are highly predictive of poor relationship quality. A person with an anxious attachment often worries that their partner will leave them; those with avoidant attachment are careful not to let their partners get too close.
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