There was ghosting, then breadcrumbing, and just when we thought dating couldn’t possibly get any stranger..
along came stashing- being in a serious relationship with someone who keeps you hidden or a secret from their normal life.
Secrets maybe exciting at first but don't make for a lasting connection. Anyone who’s experienced this knows it doesn’t feel good to be a secret.
People who stash like to keep their partner at arm's length and prefer their independence. They will also avoid posting about their partner on social media.
Maybe you don't think social media announcement matters (which is fine), but if transparency and openness are important aspects of any healthy relationship, then staying too secret for too long will cause some serious problems.
Feeling stashed, or hiding a relationship from others, causes people to feel shame. It makes us feel like there is something wrong with how we love. It can wreak havoc on our significant other’s sense of belonging and worthiness in the relationship.
And this psychological pain isn't just damaging to the relationship. It's can be damaging to you, too.
It can cause women to put a lot more emotion into a dead-end relationship, because it damages confidence, making them question where they stand with that person.
If you are faced with stashing in a relationship, it could mean a significant other isn’t being honest about what they want.
You deserve a person who isn't hurting you at such a fundamental level.
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