Would you move into an apartment before checking if it's actually for rent? Would you pull into a parking space that's not empty? Would you put on a pair of underwear before making sure that someone else isn't already wearing them? No, you'd probably check to see whether any of these things were available first. So why not do the same before even considering a romantic relationship with someone?
The first rule of dating is to make sure that the other person is actually available.
This may seem obvious at first glance.
And for most people, "show up" is an important requirement for a date to be successful. But physically available doesn't necessarily mean actually romantically available.
In fact, being willing to date you doesn't necessarily mean being romantically available. Heck, even someone who's already your significant other may not be romantically available no matter how close you may seem.
The other person may think or insist that he or she is romantically available but really isn't.
✏️Lesson One: When someone is still hung up on someone else, that person is not available.
✏️Lesson Two: When a person is addicted to a substance or something else, that person is not available.
✏️Lesson Three: When a person is gripped by fear of something, that person is not available.
✏️Lesson Four: When someone is already in a relationship, that person typically is not available.
✏️Lesson Five: When someone has told you that he or she is not available, that person is usually not available.
For a relationship to really work well, both of you have to be ready to make each other top priority. Or at least you have to mutually agree where each of you falls on the other's priority list. Some people may be OK with not being on top, so to speak. Generally, though, it's better to stick with someone who's actually available.
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