🧐Is Your Partner Cheating🧐

All couples go through emotional ups and downs, but when your spouse is cheating on you, you often have an intuition or inner knowing informing you that there is trouble.

Infidelity may be a symptom of something else going on at home or your spouse may just be a cheater. Cheating may be part of his behavior pattern.

Why do people cheat,when they know they leave so much destruction in their path? Sadly, people choose infidelity; no one sees another person across a crowded room and falls into their arms. Cheating is a conscious choice. During an affair, the cheater feels both omnipotent and invisible…at least at first.

A man who both loved his wife and was happy in his relationship, had lunch with a co-worker who supported him in his job and made him feel comforted and secure. Eventually he left his wife for this woman, never really knowing why. That new marriage failed in the end, as it was based on recreating an early childhood pattern with his mother.

Feelings of being undervalued, invisible, and unimportant lead to a vicious cycle of creating space and distance between partners. Your mate may then feel lonely, angry, revengeful, and disconnected from you. Influenced by such feelings, he can become vulnerable to another person’s attention, focus, and charm.

Signs of cheating-

1. An obvious emotional withdrawal from you and a lack of emotional intimacy.

2. Extra time spent away from home—late nights at the office, work on the weekends, trips away from home without you.

3. Marks on his body, unfamiliar scents on clothing, all pointing to intimacy with someone else.

4. Lack of physical intimacy with you.

5. Stirring the pot, starting fights at home.

6. Acting vacant and detached from you.

7. Sudden interest in their appearance—losing weight, working out at a gym, buying new clothes.

8. Exhibiting a younger look.

9. Unusual showering patterns on returning home.

10. Possessiveness. Accusing you of flirting or being interested in others.

11. Picking on you or undermining things you do. Or, on the other hand, being excessively flattering and polite, bringing home unexpected gifts.

12. Telling you that they need time alone to think about the relationship.

At some point you may have to choose whether you want to save your marriage. Is it worth saving? If the answer is yes, then talk about your feelings without defense and listen to your partner's. Professional help can guide you.

If both of you feel love, then together you can rebuild your relationship.

It’s easy to get a divorce, but if you choose authentic and open conversation, you may find that you love each other still. Then you may also decide that the relationship is worth saving.