According to the research, between 10-15% of couples reconcile after they separate. Only about 6% of couples marry each other again after they divorce. Of those who remarry each other, about 30% go on to divorce each other a second time. Since the divorce rate for second marriages is over 60%, the lower rate suggests that the renewed marriage is stronger than it was before the divorce.
The most common reason couples get back together is that they recognize and resolve the problems that plagued their marriage.
If a problem has been resolved, such as lack of intimacy, or financial stress, couples may reconnect. Problems can also be resolved with a commitment to couples and/or family counseling and making changes at home.
Because relapse into old, negative, or destructive habits is common, couples should commit to continuing to work on their relationship, learning and improving communication skills, and setting aside time to focus on each other.
Some couples remarry each other after working through the trauma of a betrayal. This requires work in the areas of apology and forgiveness. The underlying contributing causes of the betrayal are also important to work through.
Some get back together because, despite all that had gone wrong in their marriage, they still have deep romantic feelings for each other. They work hard to let go of past wounds and prioritize strengthening their relationship by listening, compromising, apologizing, and forgiving.
Studies show that up to 60% of people going through a divorce process may be open to reconciliation at some point. Reconciliation during the divorce process is more common and less challenging than marrying your ex after the divorce is over. However, it is still necessary to commit to resolving the problems that brought you to the divorce process.
Loving someone even after you have divorced them and separated may show true commitment and dedication to another individual, which is not always easy to find. When you find a partner who feels as committed and as dedicated to you even after going through the entire process of divorce, you have likely made the right choice to reconcile.
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