There are over a million divorces every year in the US. A survey by Martindale Nolo found that the average cost of a divorce is $22,000, and many are much higher. If you have been saving for a rainy day, your divorce might be that rainstorm.
As divorce costs have increased, so has the demand for less costly options, and online divorce has been widely marketed over the last few years.
A quick Google search shows that there are many online divorce companies, claiming that the divorce can be completed quickly and at almost no cost. The forms may take a few hours to complete, and the cost is generally a few hundred dollars, plus the costs of filing fees, notaries, and other expenses.
Perhaps you're comfortable working online, doing counseling online, or even working from home online.
Divorcing online sounds like a good idea, right?
The question is: Is your divorce appropriate for an online divorce? And if so, how to choose the right company?
Online divorce is only appropriate for an uncontested divorce. When you and your spouse agree on how to handle your finances and parenting issues, your divorce may be uncontested, which means that the court can grant the divorce without you having to go through a litigation process.
The more complex your finances, your parenting situation, or your relationship with each other, the less likely an online divorce will be able to provide the support you need.
If you have had a hard time resolving disagreements during your marriage, it won’t get easier during the divorce.
You need a level playing field. This means you and your spouse each understand all of the issues, can make careful decisions collaboratively, and work out agreements you can keep. If one of you doesn’t understand your finances, can’t control emotions, or is intimidating, threatening, or highly anxious, then you need more support. The online divorce companies will not work when you and your spouse are not in agreement about all of the issues.
If you don’t understand or can’t agree on the issues around assets, debts, property, income, expenses, and parenting, you need a professional to guide, inform, and counsel you.
Whether you choose mediation, a collaborative divorce, or another settlement-oriented process, you may spend more time and money, but you will end up with a durable legal resolution you can live with.
While these options are more expensive, they will cost much less than litigating your divorce or going back to try to re-do your agreements later.
For most people, divorce is a life crisis. One never plans to divorce when standing at the wedding altar. The disappointments and betrayals may generate intense emotions of anger, grief, guilt, and anxiety.
While filling out forms online may sound simple enough, if you are flooded with emotions, you’ll need backup support from divorce professionals. If you have children and are going to share parenting time, you will benefit from the expertise of professionals who understand the legal system, as well as child development and the effect of divorce on children.
If you have decided that you feel grounded, emotionally stable, and are in agreement with your spouse about all the issues related to separation and divorce, you face your next big decision. Which company can you trust and which will be best for you and your situation?
First, different states have different laws, different forms, and different requirements. Be sure that the company you choose guarantees that the forms you will use will be accepted by the courts in your state. Some online divorce companies only operate in certain states. Be sure that you choose one that handles divorces in your state.
Some states have mandatory waiting periods (cooling-off periods) and they vary among states. Most states have specific residency requirements. Some states require separation periods, longer if you have children. Filing fees vary from state to state.
Some online divorce companies have a chat function for customer support, many do not. Most do not have lawyers to review your documents. Some will refer you to lawyers in your area if necessary, but that will cost you. Some will file the forms for you (usually at an additional cost), others tell you how to file them yourself.
Beware of the Potential Dangers:
You are not represented by an attorney in online divorce. You need to advocate for yourself.
You are not receiving legal education, advice, or counsel. You should know your rights, obligations, and entitlements so that you can make informed decisions. If you don’t know the laws, you may make agreements that you will later regret.
Some sites have hidden fees.
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