😖People Under Stress Pay More Attention To Their Partners Faults😖

People who are satisfied with their romantic relationships tend to put on rose colored glasses when it comes to looking at their partners.

They typically downplay their partners faults, perceive their partners more positively than the partners perceive themselves and attribute their partners bad behavior to fleeting circumstances rather than permanent character flaws. We know that unhappy couples focus more on their partners' faults—but are there circumstances that make people less likely to notice the annoying or hurtful things their partner does?

Not surprisingly, outside stressors take a toll on our relationships. Coping with stressors drains partners of energy that they could devote to nurturing their relationship or dealing with relationship problems. This can result in a cascade where these stressors spill over and lead to or worsen relationship problems.

The more stressful events, the more problems you notice in your relationships (such as lack of trust, difficulty making decisions, and conflicts regarding showing affection).

One study showed wives’ are more likely to blame relationship problems on their partner,  rather than the other way around. Perhaps women are more likely than men, in general, to notice relationship problems in the first place.

Stress doesn't just affect how partners feel on a day-to-day to basis, it also changes what they notice about their partners.

Experiencing outside stressors can cause people to remove those rose-colored glasses and make them more focused on the negative things their partner does.