So now you’re separated and trying your best to get through the grieving process and move on with your life. Then suddenly, out of the blue, you and your STBX (soon to be ex) are back in bed together. You briefly feel exhilarated, then you feel rotten. Then you get angry.
Welcome to the slightly shitty world of sleeping with the STBX.
If you’re contemplating going to bed with your STBX, let me point out the obvious: it’s a bad idea. In some courts, judges might determine that, by having sex, you and your STBX have reconciled, which means they might dismiss your divorce case. Beyond that, and even if there’s not a legal problem, having sex with each other slows down your grieving and that of your spouse, raises false hopes about saving the marriage.
Here are some reasons people have said they’ve hooked up with the STBX-
✖️To Get Revenge
✖️Prove that you’re still desirable to your STBX
✖️To Feel Validated
There is no loneliness worse than the loneliness of being with a person who doesn’t cherish you or have your best interest at heart. Don’t settle.
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