You may think that people love you despite your flaws, not because of them. But some of the traits you perceive to be flaws may be more attractive than you realize.
Here are 4 flaws that you want to have-
You embarrass easily. Our visible signs of embarrassment often more embarrassing than the event that precipitated them. Some people find these signs so humiliating that they resort to surgery to destroy the nerves responsible for blushing and sweating. But as unpleasant as embarrassment may be for those experiencing it, it turns out that other people find it appealing.
Rather than signaling weakness or a lack of social skills, embarrassment seems to signal that a person values relationships and is likely to be loyal and reliable. Embarrassment-prone people may make especially good romantic partners.
2. You overshare. Needless to say, revealing too much personal information with the wrong people in the wrong settings can be disastrous, and having no social filter whatsoever is clearly problematic. But a tendency to err on the side of oversharing isn’t necessarily the worst thing when it comes to building new relationships and deepening existing ones.
3. You like to gossip. They say that no one likes a gossip. But research suggests otherwise. Although some types of gossip are clearly harmful, others are geared towards protecting people from harm by warning them about dangerous people or situations. Sharing information about backstabbing friends, philandering partners, or corrupt employers may seem petty, but it serves a useful function—not only does it benefit potential victims, but the threat of being the subject of negative gossip can help keep would-be exploiters in check.
4. You're a klutz. When Jennifer Lawrence famously fell while attempting to walk onstage to accept her 2013 Best Actress Oscar, it just made everyone like her more. It brought her down to earth—literally—and made her seem human and relatable, despite her superstar status. If you’re someone who has a tendency to spill drinks on yourself, have food on your face without knowing it, or trip over your own feet while attempting to dance, fear not: Both Lawrence and scientific research suggest that these qualities probably endear you to others.
And what about your less endearing flaws? They might not be as bad as you think, either.
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