Most divorced couples have issues with each other. That’s just the way it is. Getting divorced comes with a lot of pent up resentment that built during the marriage, and that happened during and after the divorce.
Hopefully, negative feelings between spouse’s fade over time, and both move on and possibly even become friends. But, that’s not the case with some people.
Some people just can’t let things go. They harbor anger and a burning desire for revenge, and they act on it. I am referring to the vindictive ex. Let me explain.
The vindictive ex, who feels wronged and whose life completely focuses around hurting their former spouse, takes resentment and anger to another level that is lower than the lowest
of the low, a level that causes them to exhibit some of the most despicable, disgusting behavior imaginable. In other words, they become vindictive in their behavior.
Like most other divorced people, the vindictive ex has resentment, anger and bitterness. But the difference between he or she and a normal person is, the vindictive ex has a burning desire to punish or harm their ex. In other words, they want revenge and they will stop at nothing to destroy their former spouse to “get even.”
The vindictive ex is a planner. A manipulator. A liar.
Here are some outcomes of the vindictive ex:
1. They ruin an innocent person’s life, causing legal or financial issues for him or her.
By the way, when I say innocent, I’m not saying the person was an angel in the marriage or in the divorce. He or she could have been a real jerk and done unspeakably awful things. However, does that mean that the person deserves to have lies made up about them?
2. They ruin their children’s lives.
Children pay the ultimate price of the vindictive ex. Being vindictive splits the couple so far apart, to the point where there is no turning back to being civil, let alone friends. And we all know that kids thrive when parents can get along during and after divorce. We also know that it hurts kids deeply to see their parents at odds, not speaking, yelling at each other, and doing mean things to each other.
I have to believe a vindictive ex will at some point feel intense guilt by the cruel, destructive behavior, either consciously or subconsciously. Or, they will just have self-hatred, which never leads to anything good for their future.
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