Youâre not weak for having emotions, your brain is working correctly. Emotions are a fact of being human. All people, men, women, and every gender are wired for anger, sadness, fear, disgust, joy, excitement, and sexual excitement. Itâs when we are judged, shamed, or abandoned for our core emotions that we start to feel chronically anxious or depressed.
Emotions make us feel alive. Our thoughts are flat. Itâs emotions that give oomph and color to our thoughts and life experiences. Emotions are energetic experiences.
Emotions have strong impulses that are designed by nature to make us move. Emotions make our bodies react quickly to danger and pleasure, for survival advantages. For example, fear propels us to run; anger moves us to fight back to survive an attack. Disgust, with its gag reflex, causes us to expel something poisonous, protecting us from toxic food and (toxic people). Sadness moves us to seek comfort in others. Without excitement, what would propel us to explore new and unknown endeavors? Without sexual excitement, we probably wouldnât be here. You get the picture.
Society teaches us overtly and with subtle messages to ignore, invalidate, bury, and suppress emotions. And this is not right. When we block emotions and live only up in our head, we are depleted of vital energy that could be used for better living. Anxiety, depression, and other diagnoses, like PTSD and personality disorders are caused by blocked emotions. Our mind and body use a variety of strategies to suppress emotions that are too much to bear alone. Emotions are often buried so a child or adult can survive abuse and/or neglect. The mind and body figure out any way possible to avoid the internal pain caused by the sensations of blocked emotions in the mind and body. Defenses and symptoms are often the same.
We can learn to validate emotions and think through how best to use them
The bottom line: there are skills we should all be learning to help us process, not bury emotions. We should demand emotions education  for parents, teachers, and all so we can raise healthier generations to come.
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