Online affairs, despite their virtual nature, can have real-world consequences. They can be just as devastating as physical affairs, triggering feelings of insecurity, anger, and jealousy[1]. The psychological aspects of online affairs are complex and multifaceted, often involving emotional infidelity and a redefinition of traditional concepts of infidelity[1][3].
Online affairs typically start innocently, often as a distraction from boredom or emotional distress. They can begin with strangers, acquaintances, friends, or coworkers, and sometimes transform into in-person affairs[3]. The person initiating an online affair may be seeking external validation, romance, or connection. Some people rationalize online affairs as "safer" or less problematic than in-person affairs, assuming that if they're not having physical sex with someone else, they're still being faithful to their relationship[3].
However, the emotional impact of these affairs can be significant. Even if the behavior never advances to meeting in person, many partners view cybersex chatting and/or pornography viewing as a form of infidelity, a threat to the marriage, and as emotionally distressing as a "live" affair[9].
The regret or lack thereof associated with online affairs can be influenced by various factors. For instance, after confrontation, the user may fear losing the relationship with their partner (and children, pets, finances) and at the same time also fear loss of the online behavior[9]. This fear can lead to a cycle of guilt and regret, but the addictive nature of online sexual activity can make it difficult for individuals to break free from this cycle[9].
In conclusion, while some individuals may not express regret over their online affairs, the psychological impact of these affairs is significant and can lead to serious relationship problems. It's important to remember that online affairs, like physical affairs, involve real emotions and can have real consequences. Therefore, they should be treated with the same seriousness and consideration as physical affairs.
Sources
[1] Are internet affairs different? - American Psychological Association https://www.apa.org/monitor/2011/03/internet
[2] The impact of individuals' characteristics and experiences on their definitions of child maltreatment - PubMed https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9631254/
[3] Online Affairs: Examples, Why They Occur & How to Cope - Choosing Therapy https://www.choosingtherapy.com/online-affairs/
[4] Exploring The Psychological Impact Of Internet Relationships | Allo Health https://www.allohealth.care/healthfeed/sex-education/internet-relationships-psychology
[5] Differences between personal, social and institutional impact - FutureLearn https://www.futurelearn.com/info/courses/measuring-entrepreneurial-impact/0/steps/55997
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